In my work with children I am often reminded that Maria Montessori advocated for children getting what they need. “Play is the work of a child,” she argued. When working with children, both at school and in the office, the play that we do together can often be exhausting, and for good reason. They are doing the work of their childhood. Taking time out of their day to make meaning out of the world and events around them using their tools—imagination, investigation and toys. Doing so is healthy work and a part of the larger set of building blocks of healthy development across the lifespan. In light of this information, it could make you wonder about yourself. What about grown ups? What work should we be doing to continue healthy development across the lifespan? It’s clear that when it comes to traditional terminology, we don’t have any problem “working” at all. According to the US Travel Association, 768 million vacation days went unused in 2018. Work is not our problem. Our overall health and life balance, however, is an issue.
So, what can we do about it?
Let’s take January, considered by many as the longest month of the year, and make good use of it. I’m not here to talk to you about lofty goals, workouts, or nutrition—I don’t do those perfectly and I know being surrounded with 100 ways to make your year better can be daunting. Rather, let's add some levity and simple enjoyment to our lives—no purchase necessary. Doing so is critical across our lifespan for overall wellness. However, before we move on, let’s add a simple disclaimer: Working on your health and seeking out balance is not an excuse to shirk the responsibilities of adulthood. Being well rounded and seeking wellness means to find balance in responsibility, the command to take sabbath, and to seek to enjoy our lives as Ecclesiastes 8:15 reminds us.
For adults, doing things for enjoyment’s sake invokes a variety of health benefits, including boosting creativity, relationship growth, and stress relief, to name a few. Some, however, may feel that the idea of enjoyment without an endgame is trite or juvenile—maybe even lazy, and as adults, they just can’t swing them. This doesn’t mean you don’t need it, just that you need to re-engage in a way that best fits your needs. Yes, needs. We need and were created for these types of enjoyment.
According to Dr. Stuart Brown, MD, founder of the National Institute for Play (yes, it’s real), there are several types of activities that can reawaken a person’s innate need for play if integrated into an adult’s life. Also, the types of play identified below build into adult life easily if we are intentional about it.
Rough-and-Tumble play: high-intensity physical play – as high-intensity sports and competitions
Ritual play: plays with set rules and puzzles – board games, sports
Imaginative play: playing and exercising the imagination – arts & crafts, storytelling, acting, improv classes
Body play: spontaneous plays to get adults “out of gravity” – yoga, Pilates, hiking, snorkeling
Object play: involves the manipulation of objects – building blocks and bricks, fortress play, etc.
Medical research shows the powerful impact of adding enjoyment and wellness-seeking activities to one’s life. They provide stress relief, engage different parts of the brain, add to the lifespan, and build additional capacity for growth. In a 2019 journal article published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Van Vleet and Helgerson present research that adds to the growing body of evidence that adults engaging in play will benefit in a multitude of ways. Particularly this study noted that adults with type 1 Diabetes who engaged in play were more likely to have “better mood, greater diabetes disclosure to one’s partner, greater support received from one’s partner, and greater perceived coping effectiveness with the day’s most important diabetes and general stressors.” (Van Vleet et al., 2019)
Mental health wise, we see that making time for this evokes a more optimistic outlook, helps to combat depression, enhances brain flexibility, and keeps social and emotional skills sharp (National Institute for Play, 2022). It is important to recognize that this kind of activity for adults is not as easy to identify as that of children’s play—getting to that state can be more difficult for us as we have a myriad of responsibilities and distractions running in the background of our brains. Start small, challenge yourself by requiring yourself to do something that provides enjoyment and lifts your mood for 10 minutes a day. Work your way up to 30 minutes to an hour, and give yourself grace on the way.
If this still feels daunting, one way to learn is through observation. If you know a child, observe them. If they invite you into their play, just try it out. I promise they are forgiving (and directive too, if you don’t do it the right way, they will let you know). Together, let’s take advantage of a season that is typically drab and dull and add some joy. Irish playwright, George Bernard Shaw, reminds us, “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” Play at any age and stage is a gift, let's continue to remind ourselves of that this January.
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Thomas, D. (2019, February 7). The Christian Century. Retrieved December 16, 2022, from https://www.christiancentury.org/article/faith-matters/playful-romp-god
Study: A record 768 million U.S. vacation days went unused in '18, opportunity cost in the billions. U.S. Travel Association. (2019, August 16). Retrieved December 19, 2022, from https://www.ustravel.org/press/study-record-768-million-us-vacation-days-went-unused-18-opportunity-cost-billions
Van Vleet, M., Helgeson, V. S., & Berg, C. A. (2019). The importance of having fun: Daily play among adults with type 1 diabetes. Journal of social and personal relationships, 36(11-12), 3695–3710. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407519832115
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